All over social media it’s “new year, new me.” I hear that so often. Except in reality it’s the same sh*t, different year. The new year is a great time to reflect and make goals to be a better person. However, it seems that by February 1st everyone is back to their old savage ways (including myself). So how can we do better and commit to being a better version of ourselves?
2018 was like every year. There’s the good and then there’s the bad and that’s life. There is no such thing as a perfect year where everything goes right. There’s also no such thing as a year where everything goes wrong (don’t get me wrong, you can have some horrible things happen) but it’s all about perspective. We either choose to focus on the good or the bad. In reality, there was both good and bad that happened. To grow as a human we have to learn from our mistakes, misfortunes, and be thankful and grateful for the good.
I don’t regret 2018. But here’s what I’d do differently
I don’t regret 2018. There’s no point in regrets because you can’t take it back; but you can learn and grow. You live and you learn.
But here’s what I’d do differently. My productivity sucks. I’m not good at making the most of my time (and I have very little time). Between a full time job, a blog, a youtube channel, social media accounts, being a wife, and a part-time Texas Longhorn traveler (LOL, I mean really we went to so many games this year) it’s a lot to keep up with. I’m not complaining, I LOVE keeping busy and creating this little life with my husband. However, I failed to hit my youtube and blog goals last year. Why? because my productivity was lacking. My consistency and schedule weren’t planned out well. Do I regret my lack of productivity? No, but in 2019 it’s my main focus.
Health and fitness goals are always a big goal for many people. In 2018 mine were just meh. I don’t regret my lack of going to the gym because in return I was able to do other things (like travel). However, for 2019 I need to do a better job of hitting the gym and eating healthy.
The problem with goals
Here’s the issue. Goals are just goals if there’s no action plan. We can write out goals in pretty pens and add cute stickers in a beautiful agenda. That doesn’t mean anything if we don’t implement these goals into our lives. It has to become a lifestyle. Or it doesn’t work.
If your goal is to hit the gym: create an action plan and force yourself to commit. Sign up for paid classes. This means if you don’t go you lose money. Get a workout buddy to hold each other accountable. Also, set realistic goals. Working out 5 times a week may not be realistic. Set realistic goals like working out at minimum twice a week. You can always increase your gym time but at least your bottom line will be met every week and this will continue to motivate you.
Create a lifestyle that you love. Make goals that motivate you, not because everyone else is doing it. If there’s something you are passionate about then the goals will be easier to meet. Just make sure you have an action plan. I love using trello to keep me organized.
Want to see my goals from last year? My 2018 new years resolutions are here and I just re-read them. I actually met quite a few of them (learning to be a better cook, traveling) but I actually failed on a few too (blog schedule, exercise) and that’s ok. Like I said, I have no regrets. It’s about moving on and improving on yourself.